Wednesday, September 21, 2011

When in doubt, call Delilah

As I mentioned over at Momformation today, it's our anniversary.

Problem is, I've been less wife and more trouble and strife lately.

If I were the type to call into a radio show, and Ian were the type to listen to a radio show, I might consider calling into Delilah right about now.

What would I tell Delilah?

I would tell her I've been unfair and unkind to my husband, who is not with me right now.
I would tell her I regret some of the things I've said to him over the phone.
I would tell her I regret thoughts I've had. I would tell her I regret the self pity I've been feeling, and expressing, in the most embarrasing, shameful ways, and the frustration I have been trying to take out on him.

I would tell her I regret just about everything that I've said and done in the past week.

I would tell her I want him to know I love him and how grateful I am to have him.

I would tell her I want him to know I know he's doing the best he can and I'm sorry if I've suggested otherwise.

Except I wouldn't want Delilah to pick the songs for me, oh horrors. Imagine the cheesiness:

So sad, so sad, such a sad sad situation.....Sorry seems to be the hardest word. 
Or Chicago's  Hard for me to say I'm sorry 
You are the wind beneath my wings.....

I do like this one:

No. I would have to pick the songs myself.

No, I'd have to write them myself.

Unless there are any songs called, "Forgive me, I'm an idiot?"

Or how about, "Can I blame PMS every day of the month?"

Or, "Maybe it's time to renew that prescription?"

If you were Delilah, what songs would you play for my poor, battered husband? 


Anonymous said...

Hhmmmm, I'm not so good at the "sorry" songs, but I love to listen to the song "Bitch" by Meredith Brooks. That pretty much sums it up for me. I'm not sure if you've ever heard this song- it's been out for quite a few years. I love that song! You may not want to listen to it with the kids around since Isla picks up the bad words so easily. I don't think you'd want to hear her singing "I'm a bitch......"

If you don't know it, you can watch it on youtube with the lyrics to get the full Monty!

Not really an Anniversary song, but it's so close to real life.... Besides, it would probably make you feel better to dance around the house with this blaring. It works for me!


Wishing I was still Living Down Under said...

Not so good in the picking songs department i'm afraid. But thanks for the giggle. I've been a bit of a basket case lately and I want it to stop! :)

Anonymous said...

How about Buckcherry - Sorry?

"I'm sorry I'm bad, I'm sorry you're blue, I'm sorry about all things I said to you
And I know I can't take it back
I love how you kiss, I love all your sounds, and baby the way you make my world go round
And I just wanted to say I'm sorry"

Anonymous said...

I also meant to say that I saw a t-shirt recently that said "Being a crabby bitch is just part of my charm". My husband found it highly appropriate! :)

Anonymous said...

I didn't notice this before, and it's completely off the subject, but I was looking at the collage that you put with this post. You had some serious bicep action goin' on there!

Still can't think of a single "sorry" song!


Anonymous said...

I love that you know who delilah is!! So many people in my life would never get that reference! Ray LaMontagne is the first singer that comes to mind. I think the song is forever my friend.....not necessarily a sorry song but the sentiment always chokes me up a bit and makes me think of my husband.

Happy anniversary to you, may you have a lovely Skype date to hold you over until you are together again.


Anonymous said...

On a similar vein, I often tell my husband that when I pray, I thank God that he (hubby, not God) loves me in spite of myself. They chose us for a reason. For some reason, Ian's quiet way of re-loading the dishwasher came to mind when I read this. It kind of sums things up, doesn't he? He knows you're not perfect, but instead of pointing it out to you, he just moves on. That's why good husbands are good. They love us in spite of ourselves.
Long time listener! Rebecca

Betsy said...

Amber: Ian loves Ray Lamontagne. Me too. Glad you all know who Delilah is. I find myself listening, against my will, just to see which songs she will choose.

Betsy said...

Rebecca: Thanks for paying such close attention. I'm blown away.

Lauren A. said...

All I can think is Ween's "Stay Forever"

Pretty song, my favorite of theirs:

In the morning sun, I couldn't tell you
I couldn't tell you so many things
About how much I really love you
About how much you really mean
So far away but it's so easy to see you
When I'm away I want to put my arms around you
And I want to know - do you feel the same way?
'Cause if you do I want to stay forever

That's all I'm coming up with over here...

Kathleen Trail said...

Oh, Amber & I are kindred spirits! I heard Ray LaMontagne's "For the Summer" last night and immediately thought of you. So heartbreakingly romantic and yet the iteration of "I'm tired..." also seemed so fitting.

Betsy said...

That's a good song. I don't think I've listened to the words. Saw him in concert at the beginning of the summer and he played it.

Heather said...

I like the PMS comment, I'll have to try that sometime:)

Anonymous said...

From a man's perspective, maybe you don't need so much of an "I'm Sorry" song as you do an "I Love You Because You're You" song. Think Stevie Wonder's "I Just Called To Say I Love You".

Liliana Holtzman said...

Happy anniversary, Betsy! I wish you and your husband all the best that this world has to offer.

Remember to be kind not only to him, but to yourself also.

Meowmie said...

I'd say go to Someone will suggest a song to you (I received 2 songs) and you might feel a little better if you can also help out someone else with something as simple as suggesting a song that would help them.

Megan said...

Another great post, Betsy. Thank you for sharing, so eloquently, what so many of us have often felt.

I've been on a blues kick lately and Willie Dixon's 'Sittin' and Cryin' The Blues' immediately came to mind!

Don't know if links work on here, but I'll give it a shot:

Megan said...

The Beatles' 'All My Loving' also immediately popped into my head.